Talk Instead of Text

Does this picture look familiar? To most people that read this, it is something that they see and do on a daily basis. In today's day and age with techonology being the center focus, it's easy to get caught up in communicating via texts, instant messengers, and social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter. But, hands down, texting is the most popular form of interaction.

Chances are, if you have a cell phone . . . you text. If you text, you probably text everyone: your best friend, your, Uncle Jim, that one guy from college (you still aren't sure how he got your number), that girl down the street that looks like Britney Spears, and maybe even your boss! Texting is one of the most popular forms of communication because it's secretive so you can do it at just about any time! But, texting while driving is dangerous. So please please please refrain from doing that! =] In addition to texting the above, you probably text romantic interests where it's someone you like, your significant other, or spouse. But did you know texting can hurt a relationship?

When it comes to romantic relationships, texting is not the way to go! It's okay for light chit chat but a majority of communication should be done over the phone or in person. You may wonder what the difference is between someone texting you and talking to you on the phone. It's easier to do a lot of things by typing words rather than saying it. Someone could be leading you on, lying, making sarcastic remarks, and even sexual comments (which you may not catch through a text).

If someone is willing to text but never talk, it's a red flag. Maybe they really aren't that into you, aren't serious, are cheating, or something else is up. Maybe times I get clients that say their spouse, significant other, or love interest won't call them. So sometimes they take matters into their own hands and call the person to get no answer but then they text them. Let me tell you, it is always a red flag. In every case something has been up with the other person; some are cheating, others aren't into other person, some aren't serious and just want a fling, but sometimes they're just afraid of a relationship.

No matter what it is, it's time to talk to this person if you're having communication issues and most of your communication is through text messaging. No, they may not be cheating, but something else could be bugging them about the relationship. Talk to them. Because if communication is down (and something else is up with them) then it makes the foundation of any relationship weak. It's time to get to the heart of the matter and figure out what's wrong . . . or find someone else that is willing to communicate. Verbal communication is key to a relationship. If you want a successful relationship, whether it's with someone you've been with for 50 minutes or 50 years, communication has to be there. If not, you may end up like this girl in the picture. Because as soon as communication begins to fail, the foundation or any relationship begins to crumble only leading to worse things down the road.

I often tell my clients to confront the other person and see what's going on. It is possible to fix this depending on what is up with the other person. So the next time you find yourself in a relationship where texting is your #1 form of communication . . . acknowledge that red flag and follow your intuition. You may just be able to save the relationship . . . or end it before wasting more time. So the next time your husband is texting you but isn't willing to answer a call, are you sure he isn't with another girl? Or the next time your girlfriend won't call you to tell you goodnight and she loves you but texts it instead . . . does she really mean it or is she just trying to make you happy? Never underestimate these things. I know it's easy to overlook a lot of this and make up excuses for the other person. But take a realistic approach. If it happens on occasion, it's no big deal. But when someone is constantly texting and not willing to throw in a call . . . it could be a bigger issue. Once again, follow your intuition.

I can tell you that, in my personal experiences, whenever one of my relationships gets low on communication or everything is done by texting, I slowly grow apart from the other person. That's why I always try to push communicating by phone or in person with friends from time-to-time and even more so with romantic partners. I urge all my clients to do the same and help them along their way by giving them answers, advice, and guidance. Trust yourself when it comes down to texting instead of talking.

Beautiful Blessings,
Natasha <3

Compliment Yourself

The majority of clients I work with are going through a hard point in their life. Maybe their marriage is heading toward a divorce, they lost the job they've been at for 20 years, they're barely getting by each month, or they're just having a hard time finding someone to have a relationship with. I meet many clients that have self-esteem issues, as well. I'm not going to lie; I do, too! But I'm starting to change that so that I can improve all areas of my life! Today I want to teach you how to do this, too!

My job as a Tarot Reader, Life Coach, Spiritual Adviser, and whatever else you may want to call me is to provide information to the answers you seek and the questions you ask. But there is so much more that I'm here for! I'm here to motivate you to make changes in your life. I want to help every client so they can help themself. All of the clients that I mentioned above with the various issues they may be facing all have one thing in common: they put all the weight on their shoulders and blame theirselves.

I am here to show clients, and others that read this post, that sometimes just trying to change things doesn't work. How many times have you tried to fix a relationship but you were feeling so down and bad about it that trying to fix it just failed? Let me guess: nearly every time. So then the relationship fails and what do you do? You blame yourself. I can say that out of the hundreds of people I have guided, most people are this way. So how do you fix something like this?

The first step is truly to start at the very beginning. Where do you think all of this is stemming from? From what I've seen, most times it steps from yourself. It's easy to think "Oh, I didn't get that job because I'm not good enough" or "Steve doesn't like me because I'm overweight" but is that really the culprit? Did you really get that job because you aren't good enough? Does Steve really not like you because of your weight? No. Let's take a closer look at this, shall we?


Stop blaming yourself for things. It's easy to take the blame. Stop doing it, though! Here's a little tip: negativity brings about negativity. If you're feeding yourself negativity, that's all you're going to get out of life! You need to compliment yourself. When you compliment yourself you'll feel better about yourself and life! So the next time you walk into an interview, your interviewer will know you're a positive person. They'll see it! You may just end up with that job! The next time you come across Steve you will glow like a star because you're happy about yourself! He will be more into that than worry about your weight. Trust me: any guy (or girl) worth your time would rather have a guy or girl comfortable about him or herself than someone that's the perfect figure. Positivity brings about positivity!

Okay, so where do you start with complimenting yourself? There are a few things I want you to do. I want you to admit one of each of the following to yourself (more would be better, though)!

• What do you like about your personality? Your personality is who you are. Maybe it's how kind you are or how you make people laugh! Or maybe it's how you don't take crap from anyone and are very independent! Whatever it is, admit it!
• What do you like about your physical features? This is how people see you. Do you love your eyes, your hair, or the way you look in that new bikini (even though you didn't wear it because it was a nude beach)? What is your favorite feature?
• What is something you're good at? This is your talent! Are you good at singing or baking? Or how about how you won that pie-eating contest? Can you write or compose music? Find something you like about yourself! Not only will it help you feel better about yourself, but it can also remind you that you have an outlet. An outlet is something you can do when you're feeling stressed or emotional. Some people like writing stories when they're down. Others like to cook!
• What is something you're proud of yourself for? Pride is being true to yourself. Are you proud that you always hold doors open for people? Or are you proud that you finished college? Or maybe you're proud of painting Aunt Lola's house over the summer (even though she kept trying to hook you up with her neighbor that's 15 years older than you). This is great for motivation as it helps you see what you've done!
• What is something you want to thank your body for? We abuse our bodies so much! Say thank you to yours! Do you want to say thank you to your body for continuing on even though you smoke a pack a day? Or do you want to thank you body for walking a mile every day for 15 years?

You may wonder what this will do. Easy: it will empower you! That is what I, as a Reader and Coach, want to bring to my clients beside answers. I want to empower each and every one of you to make changes in your life to bring about new things and the things you want. Empowerment is change! If you feel beautiful and feel comfortable in your own body, people will notice your natural glow and you'll find yourself wanting by people in no time! If you pick yourself up and brush yourself off by complimenting yourself, you'll see all that you can do!

This can be applied to all areas of your life! By finding the good you're bringing out the good. I urge you to write down your compliments and post them either as a comment, on your own blog (and you can always link to your blog by commenting and I would love it if you linked to this post in your own so others can try), or by even posting it on Facebook! Here is a quick list I made up for myself:

• I like how I'm always willing to help others. I'm caring, loving, motherly, and protective. I always make people laugh and brighten their day!
• I love my eyes; they change colors to match my mood. I also love my lips and my feet! Oh, my hands are pretty too as well as my nails which are like rocks!
• I'm good as singing, writing stories, writing songs, composing music, and Reading Tarot Cards! I'm good at speaking French (parce qu'il est chouette) and reading music for the piano even though I haven't had a single lesson.
• I'm proud of myself for not giving up when it comes to what I want. I'm proud that I've always been able to find the silver lining in things. Remember that there is a positive and negative to everything!
• I want to thank my body for continuing on even after I've put so much junk food in my body and do very little physical activity. Thank you for bearing with me when I drank too much Dr Pepper or ate too much chocolate. I love you!

Now it's your turn! This is the first step to a better you and a better life! Accomplish this and then start making the changes in your life and see the difference! Let me know what results you get! I love helping others and I want to help you empower yourself!

Beautiful Blessings,
Natasha <3

Welcome One and All!

Hello, everyone! So this is my new blog and I plan to keep with it! I'm hoping to use this as both a personal and spiritual blog! You'll see things from my Daily Tarot Readings to posts on my personal life . . . and from posts on Spirituality to posts on me trying to lose a few pounds this summer. It really is a grab bag of things!

Anyway, I'm Natasha and I'm a Professional Tarot Reader! I've helped hundreds of people with my Readings. I provide them with answers and guidance. You can find my feedback here and purchase a Reading here or contact me on Facebook! I'm also a college student that enjoys French, music, singing, reading, writing (stories, lyrics, and music), among other things!

Please let me know if you have any questions! I hope to watch my blog transform over the next couple of days as I make some graphics for it to personalize it! =]

Beautiful Blessings,
Natasha <3